I know firsthand what it’s like to be captive to pain. Growing up, I often felt rejected and unloved by some who were supposed to love me. In effort to gain their love and approval, I became a classic “people-pleaser.” This approach to life never worked to give me the acceptance that I thought I so desperately needed. Instead, it seemed to deepen the pain and perceived need.
Now I can say that I’m finally free, thanks to God’s loving deliverance! He taught me how to turn from my quest to please others toward a life that’s free and exciting in Him.
Whatever the specific source of pain, I’ve been serving God by helping many others break free.
Carolyn Jean Davis is the founder and CEO of Excited Free Living, LLC, an organization that serves people who seek to become unchained from the bondage of pain. She lives in Chicago with her husband of 36 years, Keith. They have two adult sons.
S.R.U.T.A.L., the process outlined in the Squeezed to Please Journey Coaching Program, is a personal journey to breaking free from the chains of people-pleasing one link at a time. It is a unique and proven process with six steps. Each step is a link in a chain that you have to break to experience freedom. One must work through each step for this process to work.
S.R.U.T.A.L. stands for Shift, Remove, Uncover, Transform, Align, and Live. It is the first letter of the first word for each of the six steps outline in my book “Squeezed to Please.”
This six-step process leads to inside to outside permanent change and freedom from bondage. One can apply these steps to any captivity; however, the focus here is specifically on breaking free from the bondage of the need to please people when squeezed.
Pain has a way of squeezing us and bringing what is inside us to the outside. Have you ever been squeezed? What comes out of you? How do you respond to life squeezes? Do you want to experience the way God squeezes you instead? If you answered yes, then this book is for you.
Everybody has pain, but not everybody goes to God to deal with it. Instead, we run to unfulfilling or enslaving things to escape the pain. The author Carolyn Jean Davis can testify to this truth. Life squeezed her, and what came out of her was people-pleasing and living for approval to escape the pain of rejection. God set her free and is now using her experience to set others free.
CHAIN BREAKERS: I kept trying to deal with pain on my own, in my strength and my way, so I stayed stuck in my pain. Finally, I grew tired of being in pain but remained stuck. WHY? I trusted myself and not God to deal with my pain. I kept trying to deal with my pain my way instead of God's way.
PEOPLE PLEASERS: Here's some stuff
MOMS & DAUGHTERS: This one gets a sentence too
EMOTIONAL BAGGAGE CARRIERS: Write a little bit here
EMOTIONAL EATERS: Here's some more stuff
Carolyn is a passionate, energetic, inspiring, and knowledgeable speaker. She connects with her audiences, uplifts them and is helping them break the chains of their pain and live life excited and free.
Instructor for the National Baptist Congress of Christian Education of the National Baptist Convention USA, Inc. since 2010
Certified Instructor under the Sunday School Publishing Board of the National Baptist Convention USA, Inc. since 2011
On Faculty for the Chicago Baptist Institute International in Chicago, Illinois since 2013
Sunday School teacher since 1998
Counseling since 2003
Certified Biblical Counselor since 2004